My husband and I are expecting our third child (a girl) any day now and we still cannot agree on a name!
Naming our first baby (a boy, now 6) was easy. Leonardo (called Leo) Holden. Our 2nd baby (a girl, now 3) was a little harder but eventually we found a name that we both just love, Katriahna (pronounced Cat-Ree-Ah-Na) Adara. We call her Kat. But for the life of us we cannot figure out a name for our new little one that will sound right with both of her sibling's names as well as with our last name (Allessi) and it's driving us crazy!
We're hoping for something that can be shortened into a 3 letter nickname (Like Kat and Leo) but barring that we both like names that aren't too mainstream, yet also aren't too "out there", as I know what it's like to have a name that makes most people go "huh?" when you introduce yourself.
I've always liked the name Lisar but then that doesn't really sound quite right when paired with Allessi. My husband's family is very old world Italian, so anything from Italian origins could work too.
It gets harder with every child, doesn't it! Each new name has to sound right with the others---and previous names can eliminate whole batches of possibilities, such as how using the name Ian might rule out Owen, Evan, Kian, Liam, etc.
This, though, is one of the most challenging situations I have ever tackled. I started by looking in The Baby Name Wizard, which has a whole section of Italian names. I scanned for any that would have three-letter nicknames:
Arianna - Ari
Chiara - Chi
Donatella - Don
Gemma - Gem
Gianna - Gia
Giovanna - Gio
Liliana - Lil
Maddalena - Mad
Michela - Mic
Mirella - Mir
Raffaella - Raf
Silvia - Sil
Valeria - Val
Vincenza - Vin
Viviana - Viv
Some of those nicknames are kind of a stretch: Leo and Kat are established, familiar nicknames, but Sil? Vin? Maybe not. And Gio and Lia are so similar to Leo---okay, or not okay? The nicknames that look like the best possibilities to me are Ari and Gia. Arianna Allessi and Gianna Allessi both sound great---but unfortunately I think the "-anna" ending is too similar to Katriahna: Katriahna and Arianna, Katriahna and Gianna.
Then I tried some -ellas. Raffaella is pretty, and it's good with the siblings: Leonardo, Katriahna, and Raffaella. But then the double-L starts messing with your last name: Raffaella Allessi is a lot of A and L. Same for Aribella Allessi, Mirella Allessi, and so on. So no -annas, and no -ellas.
This is quite a corner we're painted into here. The surname, the 3-letter-nickname, the Italian. Even when we remove the Italian, we still run into trouble---and since Leonardo and Katriahna both have the Italian sound, and the name Allessi sounds Italian too, I like the idea of keeping the Italian.
Desperate times call for desperate measures: I changed strategies and started with the nickname instead. Leo and Kat are both familiar, contemporary-sounding names, and I don't think we can combine them with, for example, Sil or Don. Leo and Kat have SASS. If we want a 3-letter nickname to go with those, I think we want to look at:
Keep in mind that you may not be alone in the quest: sass is in style. The hottest competition will be for longer versions of short names that are perceived as getting too popular, such as Ava: now that it's in the top ten, people will be looking for a name that lets them have Ava without actually using Ava.
So let's start instead with something there's less competition for: Ali. There were a lot of Allisons going by Ally, Ali, and Alli when I was younger, but the Alisons have been going steadily down since the 1970s and there won't be as many of them now. Longer versions of Ali to consider: Alissandra, Alixandra, Aliyah, Alina, Aliza. I like Alissandra. I would have thought the A and the SS would be too much with Allessi, but instead I think it's pretty: Alissandra Allessi. I think it's because the "-andra" comes in the middle to break it up. Leonardo, Katriahna, and Alissandra. Leo, Kat, and Ali.
Ada has a similar sound to Ava, but hasn't come into style---yet. It did just show up again on the top 1000, so I imagine I'm not the only one who's noticed how much it sounds like Ava, and some people will be looking for ways to get the nickname Addy now that Addison is getting so popular. Long versions to consider: Adaline, Adamaris. I'm not sure, but I think both of those are short-A, not long.
Well, let's look at longer versions of Ava anyway, even though I think that's where you'll find the most competition of all: Avamaria. That might be the only one. I like it, though: Avamaria Allessi. Leo, Kat, and Ava. Leonardo, Katriahna, and Avamaria. Familiar but not common, pretty but sassy. I don't know if it's Italian per se, but maybe it is---it sure has that Italian SOUND. I really like that one.
Longer versions of Bea: Oh, this is where we find Beatrix, one of my current favorites! Oh, I wish someone would use Beatrix. Beatrix Allessi! But even through eyes filmed with love I can see it's not great with Leonardo and Katriahna. Totally different style.
Longer versions of Eva or Eve: Evalynne (do you suppose there's any way to spell it that would make people pronounce that with the long E instead of with the short E? maybe do Eve Lyn?), Evaline (again: long E, any chance?), Evangeline. I like Evangeline. Evangeline Allessi. Leo, Kat, and Eve. Leonardo, Katriahna, and Evangeline.
Longer versions of Mae: Maegen, Maebeth. Wrong style, and my eye reads Maebeth as Macbeth.
Well, this isn't really helping, is it? I don't usually go down this path, but I am beginning to think that name invention is a good idea here. Let's pair a nickname with another ending. Avalyn Allessi. Adamaria Allessi. Mayenna Allessi. Maella Allessi. Gialouisa Allessi. Giamaria Allessi.
Nope, I'm stumped. I've only got three names to consider, all of which I like but I'm not sure it's enough to choose from: Alissandra, Avamaria, and Evangeline. Readers, you have got to help us out here.
Alissandra: 50 votes, roughly 43%
Avamaria: 9 votes, roughly 8%
Evangeline: 57 votes, roughly 49%]