My husband and I are expecting our second baby, it's due in about 2 weeks. We think we have our names picked out, but I am afraid that we have run into a problem. Our first baby girl, Addison Jane, is 2 years old. We both love her name and agreed on it right away. The names we picked for baby number 2 are Liam James or Alexis Ann. We would most likely use Lexi/Lexie as an occasional nic-name until she was old enough to choose what she wanted to be called. We are planning on having a third, and maybe fourth child, and the other boy name we love is Lucas (no middle name yet). That would leave us with a possible 2 A-named girls and 2 L-named boys. And it is totally a coincidence, those are just the names we love.
A little history: Jane is my middle name as well as both of my grandmother's first names, James is my husband and both of our father's middle names, and Ann is both of our mother's middle names. My name starts with a C, my husband's name begins with an S, and our last name begins with a K, ends with an S and is one syllable. His side of the family has a tradition of naming the first boy S-name James K___s. We do not like any S names, so far, but you might come up with one we didn't see, and we would consider it for a second boy. My husband originally picked the name Liam and is in love with it, so we are tied to that.
My husband can be a little picky, he seems to relate certain names with certain things. Names that are out are: Mark, Michael, Patrick, Jennifer, Claire, Jessica, and Katherine. I know that all the names we like are pretty popular, but to be honest, we have liked those names for years - even since before we were married. I would like to think we go for trendy first names with a classic middle name. And we have picked the middle names we did for family connections, so first names are all for 'fun'.
I like Jocelyn, he doesn't. I like Ellen (Elle/Ellie for short - I know, not too trendy), he hates it. Other that what we have, I'm not sure what he likes.
My question is: Should we look for other names to replace Alexis and Lucas (Luke)? Should we be worried about the possibilities? Could you help with possible suggestions?? It's hard to look for more names when we already love the ones we have picked out.
Thanks for your help!
If you think you might want more than four children, you could briefly consider whether you'd feel "stuck with" using A/L names for additional children---but on the other hand, you might very well have one girl and three boys, or four girls, or some other combination that doesn't lead to two A girls and two L boys anyway.
I've found, too, that with each pregnancy, my name list changes. We had a girl name picked out for our first baby (a boy), but we didn't use that girl name when we had our girl years later. We had two boy names picked out when I was expecting the twins (a girl and a boy), but we didn't use the unused boy name when we had another boy two years later. It's possible that some of the A/L names you've chosen now won't be candidates once those future babies actually arrive on the scene.
I have given this some mulling, and here is what I think: use the names you love. I think you're smart to consider the issue ahead of time so you don't get backed into a corner, but I don't think you're going to get backed into a corner.
[Name update! Christa writes:
Thanks for you encouragement. You were right, we shouldn't worry about it too much.
We had a boy! Liam James was born July 24th weighing 6 lbs and 4 oz. It has been busy around here with a slightly jealous 2 year old and a new born!