I have 3 girls, and our "baby" is about to turn 1 year old!! Her name is Amelia Joy, but for various reasons we have been calling her by her middle name "Joy", since about 4 weeks of life. We don't call either of our other 2 girls by their middle names, and with 3 girls I'm wondering how much sibling rivalry it will cause when girl #3 grows up only to realize we have been calling her by her middle name all this time!! Amelia is a perfectly beautiful name, but our sweet pea is always so happy these days, Joy just seems to fit! Further to add to the confusion, she is beginning to walk and talk and ANSWERS only to Joy. So my question is at what point do we settle on a name?? Is it quite normal for a child to be fully called by their nickname, even though they have a beautiful given name? Could we call her "Amelia Joy" or do I really need to settle on one or the other??
In my opinion, it is okay to do this any way that feels right to you: call her Joy, call her Amelia, call her Amelia Joy, call her a combination---you're right no matter what. Both "Amelia" and "Joy" belong to her, and it doesn't seem like the sort of thing that would cause sibling problems.
I'm interested to hear what other people think. Is it a problem to use a middle name, if the middle name fits the child better? Is it a problem to sometimes use the first name and sometimes use the middle? Is it important to choose just one?