Here's my dilemma, and I will TOTALLY understand if you do not want to post it because, talk about killing the mood. But if you would like to share with your readers or just respond on your own I would welcome your advice.
I am pregnant with a baby who is not going to live (our third). We are 100% certain of this. We would still like to give him a name. The question is, what. My husband really likes Benjamin, which I think is OK, but kind of boring. I like Sam and Nicholas (I know, equally as boring as Benjamin) and lately am really taken with Simon. The "simple Simon" thing bugs me a lot though. I've always liked Theodore because of the nickname Teddy, but my husband never has. A family name that we kind of like but were a little chicken to use (and it doesn't really go with our other son's name) is Anton. We had ruled out names that start with J (or j-sound) or end with O because of our other kids' names and our last name. But maybe that doesn't matter now.
I think we should choose a more unusual name, because I worry that if we chose, say, Ben, then we will frequently meet little boys named Ben, and that will be hard. Then again, would I feel all "it's a sign" if we chose an unusual name, and then we run into a boy with that name?
OR, should we choose some kind of angel or commemorative type of name, like Gabriel. I don't know what other choices there would be (brother-in-law and late father-in-law are both Michael, so I wouldn't want that).
Anyway this is long and rambly, but I would love your thoughts if you are up for it.
I suspect that you will think regularly for the rest of your life about this baby. Because you won't have the chance to get to know your little boy, his name will be one of the only things you do have of him. This makes the name choice very important.
I don't know if it's the same for you, but with each of my pregnancies I've found that some of the names on my list feel like "my baby," and others don't. I love the names Carson and Frederick, for example, but does either name feel like My Baby? No. So I don't use either name myself, even though I love both of them.
I think you'll be happiest with your decision if you choose a name that FEELS LIKE this baby, a name that brings him strongly to your mind. Do any of the names on your list of possibilities give you a rush of recognition? Do any of them feel like his name?
I think you can disregard some of the things you might normally take into consideration, such as how well the name goes with your surname or with the sibling names.
I am hoping others can give advice as well.