We are very indecisive people. Our first son (Samuel Atticus) was named the day after he was born - we had narrowed it down to three possibilities (Samuel, Willem and Asher). I was never a fan of Willem, husband was, and he just didn't seem like an Asher.
So here we are with #2 on the way - also a boy - so hard to name boys. We have trouble picking paint colors, so naming a human is just too much for us ;). One week we're set on a name and the next week set on another. Would really appreciate some help, as all names are starting to sound the same and it seems like I can find something wrong with all of our picks. I will include the "master list" I made below, but the top contenders are as follows:
1. Quinten - *called Quinn* (not a big fan of Quinten, but love Quinn, and Quinten is my grandmother's maiden - he could have options this way)
My problem with Quinn is that apparently some people think it's feminine. I never did until I heard others say that. I just thought of Quinn the eskimo, the mighty, and a strong Irish surname. I think it is trendy right now for girls, but still somewhere in the 500's?
2. Eamon pron Ay-mun (love this name, was on longer list last time). My question is this: why does nobody use this name?? Are we missing something? I think it looks and sounds great.
3. Jude: just like it, think it's cool - yes I know it's on the rise and trendy, but it's an old classic name, so not too worried about it being dated in 20 years. Just not sure if I'm comfortable with the meaning/connotation (German word for Jew, Jews were forced to be labeled Jude on the yellow stars, etc.). I don't want to offend anyone nor do I want an association to Nazis during WWII - no thanks. Am I thinking too much??
4. Finn/Finnian/Phineas - I know, I know. But it's not common or trendy at all where we live. Not even close. The problem with Finn is that I think it's so cool for a young boy, adolescent, etc., but I'm not sure as an adult. So, I'd like a longer name to go with it, but don't dig the options so much. Not a fan of Finnegan. Don't like Finbar or Finley. I do like Finian, but am not sure if it's too much. My husband *loves* Phineas (Phin) and I do too, but am afraid it's a bit too pretentious (I swear we're not - we just read a lot) esp, since we already have an Atticus (middle).
So, Top 4: Quinn, Eamon, Jude, Finn
Others I have repeatedly thought about and that are still on the list:
Thanks so much for any help or advice you can give us!!! Note: don't want to share last name, but it seems to flow with all of the names I've listed (ends in S, so that eliminates a lot of what we like).
You have such a good list of candidates here; the hard part is narrowing it down and CHOOSING one, forsaking all others. I like all of your Top Four, so I'm not even going to break into the list of other candidates.
Finn can also be used as a nickname for Griffin. But if you both love Phineas and Finian, I think those are both good choices. If they continue to seem like Too Much, you could use them in the middle name slot instead, as you did with Atticus: Eamon Phineas, for example, or Jude Finian.
I don't know, either, why Eamon isn't more popular. I wonder if it's just the EE/AY problem? It would be regularly pronounced EE-mun, and that would be a minor hassle---but that doesn't seem to keep people completely away from other names with minor-hassle pronunciation/spelling issues.
I love the idea of using your grandmother's maiden name Quinten and shortening it to Quinn. I don't think of Quinn as feminine, either; like you, I think of the mighty Quinn. Would Quin look more masculine, I wonder?
I didn't know Jude was the German word for Jew. That gives me pause---but I don't think it would keep me from using it unless I thought it might keep bothering me.
Let's have a poll over to the right for the first name [poll closed; see results below], but we can discuss middle name options (perhaps from the Other Candidates list) in the comment section. I think I'm most drawn to Eamon Phineas.
Poll results (275 votes total):
Quinten (Quinn): 104 votes, roughly 38%
Eamon: 58 votes, roughly 21%
Jude: 49 votes, roughly 18%
Finn (from Phineas/Finian): 64 votes, roughly 23%
Name update 08-31-2009! Danielle writes:
Hi there- we wrote a while back to ask for help - (brother for Samuel Atticus) :). I'm a little late in sending an update, but we went with Finian Jude (nn Finn). We went back and forth between one or two n's for Finian, as both spellings are shown in the baby name book we used, as well as for St. Finian, lake Finian, etc. Anyway, we really love the name and I love seeing the updates on your site so I thought I'd pass on.....