I am pregnant with our first child, gender unknown, and we are having a very hard time deciding on names...mostly because of a few dilemmas. Here it goes...
Boys- Since I was 16 (not kidding) I have wanted to name a first born son Henry Scott and call him Hank. Hank is the part that I LOVE! I've just always envisioned that to be my son's name. It also turns out that I married a Scott...perfect! Well, 2 years ago my first cousin named his son Henry. He goes by Henry, not Hank, so I still thought I would use the name. BUT just last week, another first cousin (on the other side of my family), named his baby Henry too. But again, he's not going by Hank. Would it be so wrong to name a baby Henry, since he would go by Hank?? we are close with the cousin with the 2 year old henry...but not the other cousin. My husband is Joseph Scott, and goes by Scott, so I suggested just doing Joseph Hank and calling the baby Hank...but he doesn't like that. He thinks we have to use Henry to get the nickname Hank. what do you think?
Girls- My best friend's last name is Layne. I have always LOVED her last name and wanted to use it for a girl's name for many years. I even wanted to change it up a little and use McLayne. It's different and sounds girly to me, without being too much (I'm not a super girly girl :-) but my husband is not a fan of having Mc at the beginning of a first name and for that reason says no way to McLayne. AND, in the last 2 months, my sister-in-law and a good friend used Layne as their new baby's middle names. I know since they used them just as middle names I could still use it, but it takes the fun out of it for me. I like having something just a little different and had that picked out for so long. And another problem is that my husband and I do not agree on--and LOVE-- any other girl names at all. NONE. Layne is the only one we both liked a lot. what are some other names that are different, without being weird?? maybe even other take-offs of layne? we would more than likely use Leigh as the middle name...it's my sister's middle name.
I'm SO BUMMED! I love playing around with baby names and thought I had my first choices set in stone and now it's all messed up. i definitely want something semi different (i know henry is WAY popular, but hank does not seem to be and before those 2 people close to me used Layne, i hadn't heard that either.) HELP!
I do think it's still fine to use Henry, even though a couple of family members have used it. You were planning to use it when the relatives you're close to chose it, so I don't think it changes anything to have LESS-close relatives choose it. And it helps that the two other Henrys are on opposite sides of the family, since then it won't feel to everyone else as if there are Henrys all over the place. If I were you, I would go ahead with your Henry Scott plan for a boy.
AND I think you should go ahead with Layne if the baby is a girl. You could go with the spelling Maclaine, if your husband's objection is to the capital letter in the middle of the name. You could also name her Elaine, Elaina, Elena, Alaina, Alayna, Lainley, Melayna, Delayne, Delaney, Helene, etc., and call her Layne or Laney. You could also name her Lail or Layle or Laile (rhymes with Gail).
But I think if I were you I would stick with what you originally wanted: whatever you choose there are bound to be duplicates, so it's best to choose what you want most---and "Layne" is the name/spelling that has the significant meaning for you.
Name update 09-12-2009! Kinsey writes:
just wanted to let you know that Joseph "Hank" was born on Saturday September 5th. he came a little early, but we finalized his name the night before heading to the hospital. as you can see, i convinced my husband to stick to the same pattern of his own name and then only use Hank, not Henry. we love it. thanks for all the comments and advice. i finally have my Hank, without him being "just another Henry" in our family. yeah!!