I'm wondering if anyone has advice or an opinion on changing a child's name after the birth certificate has been signed. Not his first or last name, but his middle name. The child is 2 1/2 currently and it's eating at me, as silly as it sounds.
I always hated naming my children because it was like shooting skeet. I would toss up a name and hubby would shoot it down. Never did he toss up a name and it made me nuts. We ended up naming our first Gabriel after I tossed a little, checkout impulse buy baby name book at him and told him, "Pick a name!" Gabriel was the first one he came too that he liked. Naming our next three was similar. But we always tried to have some sort of family connection -- espcially in the middle name.
With our last -- number 5 -- I tossed out the name Logan thinking he'd shoot it down as being 'too soap-opera-y'. Instead he glommed onto it, with our older children standing around. I was super surprised until Gabe shouted, "It's Wolverine's real name from X-men!" As it was a favorite family movie, I knew there'd be no way I could get out of the name Logan. Plus, when he's older I thought he'd appreciate it.
Middle name suggestions at the time ranged from Ryan to Wolverine. I liked Xavier (because 1. if we were going to go the x-men route Xavier is one of the other main characters, 2. I like it, and 3. how cool would Logan X. H_____man look as a signature?) But it didn't have any sentimental value. So, obviously nixing Wolverine, we went with Ryan -- the last name of hubby's best friend and the one who brought us together. Only after the fact did I realize Logan Ryan H_____man sound way too heavy on 'n' sound at the end.
Now Logan is 2 1/2 and I'm seriously contemplating changing his middle name if it's not too outrageously expensive, difficult, or cause future problems (like with Social Security Number/IRS, etc.)
If anyone has thoughts, advice, encouragement, or warnings concerning this issue, please share!
Name update 03-05-2010! Katie writes:
Thank you all for helping us get our head on straight. You know how sometimes you need someone to mentally shake your head like an Etch-a-Sketch so you can stop dwelling on something? Well, we had Etch-a-Sketch head and you all helped clear it.
Telling the friend and taking back the honor was the main reason we really hesitated and, with the comments focusing mainly on that, we realized that, while the friend probably wouldn't care (he's pretty happy-go-lucky) his friendship and the past mean too much for us. Logan is our last baby and it's fitting that his name brings us back to our beginning.
As for the 'an' 'an' 'an' at the end of all the names that bugged me -- knowing that the commenters didn't think it sounded bad has helped me get over it. I'm used to critical people who pick apart a name so I guess I was feeling too defensive.
So -- thanks for the positive comments! Logan Ryan shall remain Logan Ryan and I'll find something more serious to worry about.