Dear Swistle geniuses,
I am due with baby #2 on July 24, 2011 and if it is a girl, it is going to be nameless. It is going to be "Baby B Wiebe" and that is not something I would wish on anyone.
So here's the scoop. Our surname is Wiebe, rhymes exactly with 'dweeb' which delights many many people. My children will grow up with 'dweeb' all their life and they will survive it but I certainly want to avoid any first names with equal torturing possibilities. On the flip side, Wiebe is a VERY common surname in Mennonite circles (which we are not but obviously, are related to about 7,845 Wiebes) and it is important to me that my children are not pinned with super common first names. For instance, there are a million Sarah Wiebes, I don't want to add to the number. So for a first name I want something feminine, unusual but not too out there, and something that will not get mispronounced every day of her life.
Our first child is a girl and we named her Evanie Josephine and I love her name. It was the only girl's name ever in the running during our pregnancy and I was so happy to be able to use it. We don't know the gender of Baby B- if it's a boy we're naming him Rogan Nathanial and again, it is a name I love and can't wait to use. So to think of having a second girl and just picking a "yeah I kinda like it" name out of a hat is very sad to me. I want to LOVE it. Maybe that's too much to ask. The middle name of this girl will be Grace and thankfully, every first name seems to go with Grace.
One complicating factor is that we are in a rather large community of young families and the children are about 90% girls. So every lovely girl's name has been used. (3 born in the last year went nameless for a week and a 4th had her name changed after 9 months....all of us are struggling!) Names I like that have been used are Jade or Jada, Avelyn, and Maci. Sadly those are off the list. Olivia and Vada are two other (pre-used) names I like but might consider because the families live further away and the girls are 4-10 years older than ours will be.
Our two most considered names are:
Lyla Grace ...I lean more towards this one and I know there are other spellings of Lyla but I want to avoid any confusion, hubby gives it a 5 out of 10...
Autumn Grace ...my husband likes this one but I'm unsure. Is it weird to name a July baby Autumn?
Lyla seems feminine and fairly unusual and I think goes well with Evanie. I don't see any terrible nicknames coming from it although my husband wonders if she'll be "Lyla the Liar." I'm super on the fence about Autumn, I think it's pretty but it seems older and more serious. I can imagine a grown woman Autumn but not a baby or toddler Autumn.
Other names that have been 'chewed on' are Vienna (which is basically Evanie scrambled), Rylan, and Luci.
So there you have it, top names:
Oh, and I love Halle but it gets the big N-O from my husband!:(
I have no problem with you publishing my whole email but seeing as it is about 1000 words, you may not want to!:)
-Carolyn (usually pronounced Caroline) Wiebe (always changed to Dweeb)
I'm writing to update on a name that has recently joined the running in our giant name debate for baby Wiebe #2. My husband suggested Marlowe Grace. I think I could really like it but does it work with our first, Evanie Josephine?
And it's me again.
I lay awake at night fretting about names and it doesn't seem to be getting me anywhere. Here's another name with more questions. Is Eden Grace all sorts of wrong with Evanie Josephine as a big sister? Do I pin myself to the dreadful Duggar Syndrome? We would like more children but have no set number of how many, so if we only have 3 and the third one DOESN'T start with an E...is that terrible? Because there is no way I would stick with the "E's." I am most firmly against this! Evanie J. also carries 6 syllables while Eden G. has only 3. And the style of the two names is fairly different from each other. ....I don't see them working together, I just know I actually like the name Eden Grace and I'm getting desperate.
Also, Vada, Rylan, and Lyla from my first email are out.
I was happy when your first email came in the same day we did Baby Naming Issue: Month/Zodiac/Season Names, because I thought, "Ooo, we'll be answering her question at the same time!" It looks like the general consensus was that we as a group DON'T think it's weird to have the name not match up with the season: some of us prefer it to and some of us prefer it not to, but most of us could go either way on it with names that are already widely used as names: that is, we might feel differently if you were considering the name Spring---but Autumn is already established as A Name (just out of curiosity, I looked it up: 11 new baby girls named Spring in 2010) (3,476 new baby girls named Autumn).
On the subject of repeating initials, I think IN GENERAL people can give the first two children the same initial and not the third, without anyone thinking anything of it. I think the third child tips it: if THREE children have the same initial, you're committed. (I mean, not REALLY. But the PRESSURE builds to a point where it feels like you're committed.)
I do think Marlowe would work. It's more of a rich sound to Evanie's light sound---but I still think it would work. I wonder if Harper would be somewhere in between? Or Piper? Or Marley, I think, would lighten it. Marlie might be even better.
I think Evanie and Lainey would be pretty together---though they duplicate so many letters (as well as the -nee ending), I wonder if they'd be hard to tell apart. Maybe Delaney instead? That gives you an extra syllable, too. Delaney Grace; Evanie and Delaney.
Evanie and Kiley would be pretty too. Kiley Grace.
Or Keelin: Keelin Grace; Evanie and Keelin.
Ooo, Madigan, maybe? It's lighter than Marlow, and I love it with Evanie: Evanie and Madigan; Madigan Grace. But if you want to use Rogan in the future, you might not want two -gan endings.
Instead of Olivia, would you like Livia? I'm on the fence with this name because it seems like it might be constantly mistaken for Olivia---but if it isn't, it's a way to give you a name similar to Olivia without duplicating a friend's choice. Livia Grace; Evanie and Livia.
Or for something a little longer, Liviana. Liviana Grace; Evanie and Liviana.
Or to widen the gap in the sounds of the names, Lilianna. Lilianna Grace; Evanie and Lilianna.
Or Iliana. Iliana Grace; Evanie and Iliana.
Or Eriana: Eriana Grace; Evanie and Eriana.
Or a little bit like Rylan: Ryanna. Ryanna Grace; Evanie and Ryanna.
Instead of Vada, would you like Vayla? Vayla Grace; Evanie and Vayla.
Erissa would be pretty: Erissa Grace; Evanie and Erissa. (It could be spelled Arissa to avoid the initial E, but I so prefer it with the E.)
If you like Eden, I wonder if you'd like Haven? Haven Grace; Evanie and Haven. The styles are a little different, but the van/ven sounds help tie them together.
Or Emerin? Emerin Grace; Evanie and Emerin.
Out of left field: Flannery. Flannery Grace; Evanie and Flannery.
Hm. I am finding this one difficult to match. Geniuses, over to you.
Name update! Carolyn writes:
In May I sent you our naming dilemma for baby Wiebe of unknown gender, due July 24.
She arrived July 17 with lightening speed and we named her Marlowe Grace. Though we had finally settled on this name a few weeks before her birth, I still had just a hint of uncertainty. But when we put the name to this tiny little face, it fit and I can't imagine her by any other.
Thank you for your help.