I am 39.5 weeks pregnant with my second child, first boy. I have a very specific question that I hope you and your fabulous readers can help me with. Our 2-year-old daughter is named Violet Clare. We call her Violet (I pronounce it closer to 3 syllables and my husband says it with 2) or Vi. Before we found out she was a girl, we had decided to name her Philo. We both still like the name and may use it with this boy, but I can't help but stay up at night worrying that the names sound too much alike. Vi-let. Fi-lo. Too much internal rhyme? Will this cause confusion in our house for the rest of our lives?? Am I just overthinking things?
Please help a crazy pregnant woman.
Philo is such an unfamiliar name for me, I found the unfamiliarity was interfering with my ability to figure out what I thought about the repeating sounds. So I substituted the name Milo. And when I say "Violet and Milo," to ME the repeating sound is appealing: they'd make good twin names, because it's a NOTICEABLE thing that ties them together, but doesn't strike me as being too matchy.
But the name Philo has one more sound in common with Violet than Milo does: the Ph sound which is so similar to the V sound. Do you think you will nickname him Phi? Vi and Phi does seem like too much: like having an Edie and an Evie, as a commenter mentioned in another post. And yet---that might end up being fun, and you might end up LIKING that.
So. Er, I'm not sure that was...helpful, per se. Let's see what the commenters think of the situation.
Name update! Lilly writes:
I was in labor on June 7th when I found out you had posted my question, which thrilled me to no end. My husband read all the responses to me while I was nursing/falling in love with our adorable new baby boy. The responses seemed to us to be pretty evenly split between "yes, do it" and "no, it's too close" - which you wouldn't think would be helpful at all, but it really was. Mostly it reinforced to us that the most important thing was what WE thought, because of course everyone will have different opinions on it. And so I was more convinced we shouldn't name him Philo, and my husband was more convinced we should!
After a day of discussion and trying a few names out on the baby, I didn't want to go to sleep another night with our baby not having a name. So we looked at each other and I said, "let's just name him Calvin instead." And my husband said "Ok. But I'm not ruling out Philo for any future boys." So Calvin Von (9 lbs, 3 oz) (middle name for my husband's recently-passed grandfather) was officially welcomed to our family! A big thank you to your and your readers for your help.