My husband and I are expecting our third child on 9/22/11, although I have a history of early labor and delivery. We have two sons together Owen Samuel (age 4) and Eli Benjamin (age 17 months), and I am thrilled we are finally expecting a little girl! The pregnancy has been fairly easy so far, but the hardest part has been picking out this little girl's name.
When it came to our sons names, we both agreed on the names fairly easily with little compromise. Owen's middle name Samuel is my husband's middle name and Eli's middle name is my father's name. With our little girl, we would love to have a virtue middle name, more specifically Grace, but it is not a necessity.
The one girl name that my husband and I loved before we had children was Ella. The problem is that we now have an Eli and the names are way to similar for our comfort. We want our little girl to have her own identity in our family.
Our short list of girl names are:
Stella- our compromise to the Ella problem, but it doesn't feel like the perfect name and I don't know if this is the compromise I want to make.
Mia- our front runner at the moment, but once again it does not feel like the one. Also it's rising in popularity, the name just doesn't feel complete, and the alliteration with our last name seems to bother my husband
Savannah- although I love this name and my husband seems to like it too, we both feel that it doesn't seem to go with our son's names.
Halle- a new name that I found while reading an online article and I love it, but my husband isn't as sold. He thinks it will be constantly mispronounced as hay-lee instead of hal-ee.
Addison- a name we both just like, but don't feel like its our baby girl's name.
Just for reference, if this baby would have been a boy, his name would have probably been Caleb Jackson or Luke Alexander. Please help us! We are running out of time, patience and we are tired of Owen and Eli referring to their little sister as "Baby."
Stella Marsh is a terrific name, but I can see how if what you wanted was Ella, the name Stella might be too different in sound and style.
Willa is probably my top choice for you. It has the sweetness and gentleness of Ella, but without the part that makes it too close to Eli. Willa Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Willa.
Or perhaps Clara is my top choice: it has the sweet and gentle, it has the L and the -a, but it's not too similar to either sibling name. Clara Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Clara.
Sadie is not quite the same style as Ella (sassier, I think), but I love it so much with the surname and the brother names. Sadie Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Sadie. And I like the repeating long-A sound if you use Grace as the middle name; it seems like it would be very pleasing to call her "Sadie Grace."
Molly, too, has sweetness (and a double L) but it won't work if your husband doesn't like alliteration. Molly Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Molly.
Savannah makes me wonder if you'd like the name Anna. I recently read a novel that made me PINE for the name Anna Hope. They called her Anna Hope (that is, instead of calling her just Anna while the Hope disappeared into Middlenameville), and I couldn't believe how quickly it grew on me. I had a mini-crisis over the idea of never getting to use such a great name myself. Anna Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Anna.
Or the name Annabella would give you the -ella at the end---sort of a combination of Savannah and Ella. Annabella Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Annabella. If that seems too long and frilled for the brother names, Annabel would be very nice. Annabel Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Annabel.
Speaking of names from novels, now I'm reading another book with a Nell. I wouldn't have thought that was a name I felt one way or another about, but I like it quite a bit in the book, and it has the -ell from Ella. Nell (Nellie) Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Nell.
Calla might work. Yes, I like it, and I like the nickname Callie, too. Calla (Callie) Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Calla.
If you like Mia but it doesn't seem like enough name, I've heard it used as a nickname for Amelia. Amelia Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Amelia. It bothers me a little bit that the name Eli is in the name Amelia---but it's pronounced differently, so it's not likely anything anyone would notice except to say "Oh, cool!"
There's also Mila or Mina or Mira, all of which have pronunciation issues that might be worth the hassle to add substance to the name (Mia has a couple of pronunciations, too).
If pronunciation issues are the main problem with Halle, I've seen it spelled Hallie. Although perhaps that would look like a creative spelling of Haley and would make things even worse. Hm.
Out of nowhere: I wonder if you'd like Delaney. Delaney Marsh; Owen, Eli, and Delaney.
Name update! Katie writes:
So sorry this is coming to late (and so long!), but with a newborn, a kindergartner, and a little boy who has hit his terrible-twos, things have been a little hectic in the Marsh household. Our baby girl decided to grace us with her presence slightly earlier than expected on August 15th, 2011 and her first 26 days of life were spent in the NICU due to a bacterial infection. She is home now, safe and sound, but due to her early surprise, we were unprepared on her name to say the least. When she was 4 days old, my husband and I finally sat down to figure a name out for our little miracle. Just days before she was born, we finally eliminated Ella/Stella from our list because we knew it just didn't sit well with us, compromising on a name we loved. We came to your website and we waffled back and forth between Molly, Sadie and Delaney. Each name sounded great with the middle name choice "Grace", but we were stumped. After another day, we eliminated Delaney because that was our least favorite of the three names. I loved Sadie, my husband loved Molly, and we were stuck, but ultimately, my husband ended up adjusting to Sadie and so our miracle preemie daughter became Sadie Grace Marsh. Thank you so much for the help Swistle! We couldn't have done it without you!