Naming gets harder with each child and I hope you and your readers can help us! I am pregnant with our 7th baby (c-section the end of August) and we do not know if it is a boy or girl. Our last name rhymes with Jason but begins with M. Currently we have Noah, Luke, Jonah (L&J are twins), Thomas, Kathryn, and Seth. Our boys all have biblical names although it wasn't intentional in the beginning. The first three we happened to like and Luke is also a classic name and once we got to our fourth boy felt we needed continue that direction, but Thomas is also a classic. (Those two were my husband's choices.) Our daughter is named after three of our grandmothers and with only one girl we used Kathryn Emme instead of only honoring one relative with the middle names as we did with our boys. I didn't want her to have a nickname and insisted on calling her Kathryn for her first year but my husband and other family started in on Katie and so that is what she is and it fits her perfectly.
The problem now is finding a name that fits with all of them. If it is a boy to fit the pattern it probably should be a biblical name, although being that is a common trend with people we know our list is getting shorter. For a girl, we didn't use a biblical name and so I like more feminine sounding names. I am wondering though if we need to find a girls name that can have a nickname or is shorter to go with Katie. My husband doesn't like to discuss names too much until maybe two weeks before the birth but I can't stop thinking about it. Although, he has agreed with a few.
Girl names we agree on: (middle will be either Joan or Elizabeth depending on which works. I'm not finding many to work with Joan although that is my preference). I'd think we'd have a longer list for a girl but it seems more difficult somehow.
Esther -- my favorite. Yes it is biblical but I've always liked it and it is an old-time name but doesn't especially go with either middle name. But I don't feel settled about it. Husband is okay with it.
Eliza Joan (don't love but is okay and would honor both people)
like but not using:
Emmeline (we both really like but husband would want a nn and then it would be Emme, our daughter's middle name which seems strange) It also doesn't go with middle names very well.
Evangeline (is it too long?) but like Evie for nn
Elenore (nn Nora but maybe too similar to Noah) and my husband said it reminds him of a car in a movie so no.
Elodie Joan (husband thinks sounds strange but I really like it)
Noelle (sounds too similar to our son Noah)
Felicity (love the meaning but I don't know if it really fits with our others and not sure of a nn)
Lucia/Lucy (husband doesn't like and we know two dogs with the name)
Cora (I really like Dora after my great-aunt and obviously won't use that but husband nixed Cora)
used by friends that I liked -- Gwendolyn, Lydia, Claire, Abigail
As for boys the middle name will be Gerald which doesn't go with everything nicely.
Ezra - my absolute favorite (and the kids too) but hubby thinks it sounds too girly and also wonders why I pick the unusual names :)- He can be convinced but I prefer him to like the name.
like but not using:
Judah- doesn't go with Gerald (I would want to use the family name Ryan for a middle but don't feel we can skip honoring this grandpa any longer and too it is probably is too similar to our Jonah)
Joseph (does't go with Gerald and again is similar to Jonah)
Mathias/Matthew (too many M's with our last name)
used by others close to us -- Josiah, Isaac, Samuel
I don't want it overly popular but as I have come to realize through reading your posts that shouldn't matter if I really like it. I think my husband's style leans more classic (as Thomas, Luke and Kathryn).
Any help you can offer is much appreciated!
A bit of an update as we are in the homestretch so thankfully my husband is more readily discussing names. His top three for girls are:
Eleanor (which he previously didn't like but said he realized his thinking about it was kind of strange). I still like the nn Nora but wonder if it is too similar to our Noah.
I do like each name but if using Esther would it matter that all of our children except one have biblical names? I seem to get hung-up on that point, mainly because the kids love to find their names in the bible. Where Katie can't, I thought another girl not being able to might be good. But I honestly have no idea if it matters.
And then for middle names I almost wish we didn't always name after a family member because I can find so many names that would sound better with each name. I think my husband would like Elizabeth better because it was his Grandma's name (my middle name) but it makes a name so long being 4 syllables. Joan for me was an Aunt. Tossed around using my Mom's name -- Carol, but that isn't really any better of a fit.
As for boys, well he just told me he is leaning toward Simon or Simeon. I don't necessarily like two "S" initials for children in a row (this one after Seth) but I don't say their names in order all that often. I don't think my husband will ever come around to Ezra which is fine for me. I read a previous post you did which was really good about not necessarily having the name be your "perfect" name but for both husband and wife finding a "good" name you can agree on.
Again, any advice you can offer would be great!