My husband and I are expecting our second baby, a girl. She is due on the 31st of October, but as her older sister was two weeks early, I have a feeling she will be early too. Our first daughters name is Sophia Catherine. Catherine is my mums middle name, and I love that Sophia shares that with her. We sometimes call her Sophie-Kate, which I absolutely love!
We have decided that baby girl #2 will definitely be Grace, with Gracie as an occasional nickname. However we cannot decide on a middle name. We have searched high and low for a family name to use, but really don't like any. The only family name we would consider using is McKinley, but I'm not too sure about it. I worry that Grace will be jealous that Sophia got a feminine middle name that we love, and she got a more masculine middle name that we are only okay with.
We have ten middle names we like, but we like them all and can't decide which is our favourite!
In no particular order, they are:
Grace Louisa (I thought she could be Gracie-Lou, but is it tacky or cute to have Sophie-Kate and Gracie-Lou?)
I should also mention that our last name is Camden, and we are not too fussed on how well the middle name flows with it. For example Catherine Camden sounds a bit funny, but we love Catherine so it doesn't bother us. Also I have worried that if we don't use McKinley as Grace's middle name, she will be upset that we didn't use a family name. However I have decided that if she does complain I will just let her know that we didn't use a family name as we wanted to use a name we loved.
I was hoping that you, Swistle, would be able to create a poll with these names. I am also curious to see which middle name stands out to you.
You have a long list there, so what I'd suggest first is seeing if you can eliminate some least-favorites. Paul and I once narrowed down a too-long list by having each of us go through and rank each name. Any that were tied could have the same rank, like this:
Held up next to each other, two lists like that can show you that, for example, both of you have the same several names in the #1 slot so you can start focusing on those, or that there are several names in the lowest slot that can probably be eliminated as not having any chance of trumping the higher-ranked names. (It can also show you if you're nearly opposite and need to consider a mid-ranked name as a compromise.)
In the meantime, I will go into the thicket with my machete on the Highly Opinionated setting, to see if I can quickly take it down to my own favorite.
Grace McKinley immediately stands out to me: I think it's gorgeous and striking. BUT: the important thing here is that YOU'RE not finding it gorgeous and striking. It sounds to me like you're hoping for a family name but that your main priority is finding something feminine that you love---and I vote for going with that. It's common for a firstborn to get a family name and for the siblings not to. (Or would you want to use your own name? Grace Holly Camden is so pretty.) And for all we know, the fight could end up being that Sophia is jealous because she got a grandma middle name and Grace got the cool middle name, or whatever.
Grace Louisa also stands out to me, and I'm in favor of the Sophie-Kate and Gracie-Lou idea.
If it were me, I would probably take out Grace Adelaide because of the way they run together in a "saddle" sound. The other vowel-beginning middle names give me that run-together problem, too. Normally I'd mention too that first and middle names are not often said together---but since you DO say your first daughter's first and middle together often, I think you might do so with your second as well.
And I'd take out Grace Juliana and Grace Lillian for some reason I can't put a finger on.
I said I was taking McKinley out, but I'm putting it back in. I really love family names, and Grace-McKin or Gracie-Lee might be super cute as nicknames. But again, this is just my OWN list, and yours might look quite different when you use your own machete.
So my narrowed-down list would look like this:
Grace McKinley Camden
Grace Matilda Camden
Grace Louisa Camden
I like all of those approximately equally in their full forms, but I'd vote for Grace Louisa for the sake of the Gracie-Lou nickname (and because even though it's my own list, I'm remembering your tepid feelings about McKinley). Sophia Catherine and Grace Louisa; Sophie-Kate and Gracie-Lou.
Let's have a poll over to the right to see everyone else's favorites (it'll only let you vote for one, but feel free to make expanded lists in the comments section). [Poll closed; see results below.]
Name update! Holly writes:
Our beautiful healthy girl arrived on the 25th of October. We decided to name her Grace McKinley. Big sister Sophia is in love with her, and calls her "Gacie-Kins" (Gracie-Kins) all of the time!
Thank you to Swistle and all of the readers who helped convince us to use McKinley.