I’m having a naming dilemma and have approximately 6 weeks left before our baby boy arrives!!! I hope you and your readers can help.
Coming up with a name that both my husband and I liked was difficult enough. We finally came up with a list of about 5 names we both liked, ordered them favorite to least favorite independently, and were both happy to see we had the same name listed as our “most favorite”. The name is Roman. We LOVE the name Roman. So – what’s the dilemma you ask? It’s our last name. Which is Bishop.
Our family is fairly traditional, so I wasn’t surprised or bothered when the grandparents (on both sides) scrunched their noses up to the name Roman. They did the same thing with our naming choice of our daughter (sounds like Caden, but with a different spelling), but they’ve learned to love her name just as much as they love her. But – they have pointed out the very thing that is bothering me too – the combo issue. Are we giving our son a name he’ll have to “overcome”??? I don’t want people seeing/hearing his name when he’s older and think that we named him that to be “cute” or “silly”. I’m having such a hard time with this!! He already feels like a Roman to me, so I hate to give the name up. Even our second name choice doesn’t seem to fit as well anymore (our #2 name is Vince).
Ugh – why does this have to be so hard?!
I’m going against the advice of my husband in asking for opinions. He thinks I should stop worrying about what other people think. And, he keeps reminding me that our son will always have the option of going by his middle name (Michael) if he decides he doesn’t want to go by his first. That’s another thing – I personally don’t like the name Michael – but I’m okay with having that as his middle name as a compromise to my husband. So – it would kinda break my heart if our son decided to have that be his primary name. I wish he could talk and tell us his thoughts already on his name! J
Am I overthinking this way too much??
Thanks so much for the help!!
As with all such issues, opinions are going to be all over the spectrum. But my opinion is that Roman Bishop is not a workable name. As soon as I saw it, my eyes widened and then sparkled, and there was an audible laugh. Let's have a poll over to the right to collect the rest of the spectrum. [Poll closed; see results below.]
"Not worrying about what other people think" is a concept more appropriate for moral situations, where we know we're doing the right thing and so we shouldn't worry if other people make fun of us for it; it doesn't apply as well to a name we're asking someone else to carry. I recommend The Baby Name Wizard's test: Would we want to have this name as our own? We all have names we're unable to use because of our surnames, and I'm afraid this is one of yours. (Others include Deacon, Noble, Skip, Fisher, Phillip.)
I suggest Rowen/Rohen or Ronan. They're similar to the name you love, and they may still cause a few people to crack jokes, but it's no longer as blatant. Other possibilities:
Coleman (may be too close to Caden)
Damon (may be too rhymey with Caden)
Eamon (may be too rhymey with Caden)
Name update! Ms. Bishop writes:
Again, thanks so much for posting my dilemma.
I’m writing you back to let you know that my husband and I decided to stick with Roman. It was just his name already. That, and my husband was DONE with the naming discussion....
And again – thank you. Although we’re going against the grain here, I still really appreciate you posting this and the feedback received.