My husband and I have a 19 month old daughter named Emery Michael. We always loved the name Emery and used the name Michael to honor my dad. (Growing up, I knew a girl named Michael, so it didn't seem odd to me to use it for her middle name). I fleetingly had namer's remorse over Michael, but the joy my dad got from it quickly remedied that.
I am now expecting a boy in August. My husband and I can never agree on boy names...which is why we were relieved to have a daughter first, and were secretly hoping for another one!
So, Baby Boy Wilson is on the way! After my husband shot down dozens of names, I threw out the name Meyer. To my surprise, he loved it! Here's our problem: M-E-Y-E-R = E-M-E-R-Y. They have the SAME letters! I'm trying hard to convince myself that this is not a deal breaker, but I'm wondering if it should be? We do plan on having one more child, and I don't see how we can use the same letters to form yet another name.
I guess I'm just wondering what your opinion is on the situation. Should we keep on hunting? If so, we are so very open to suggestions. We would like to use the name Owen, Jacob, or Lee for the middle name as they have family significance. We would prefer to not use Owen for a first name because of it's current popularity in our area. Jacob is my husband's name, but he doesn't want a Junior. Lee is a family name my husband would like to use. I don't love it, but would compromise on using it as a middle name. Please help us!
Ooo, I think you have stumbled on an excellent set of twin names! Emery and Meyer is pretty genius!
If you were having only two children, I would say no, it's not a deal-breaker, and also it's pretty cool. If, however, it'll make you feel weird when naming a third child, then probably it won't work out.
Do you like the name Miller? I think of it as very similar to Meyer, but it takes away that rearranged-letters issue. I don't think it's quite as good with Wilson, however, which is disappointing. Well, and making that comparison made me notice how really nice Meyer is with Wilson, and now I'm reconsidering the third-child issue. Do you think it's something you'd be able to go with? That the first two children happen to have re-arranged letters of each other's names, not on purpose but just by coincidence, and that the third child won't? It's the sort of issue that can seem like a huge deal during the naming process, and not a deal at all later on. I suspect children care about these things less often than we do---or at least that they can have it explained to them, if they do turn out to care. It seems like a cheerful "I know! Isn't that a funny coincidence? We almost didn't use it, but then we decided the most important thing was to use a name we loved for each child!" could go a long way to reducing feelings of exclusion. And perhaps you could find another way to tie a third name in, such as making sure it had an "er" in it like the first two, or a Y in it like the first two, or something like that. (Or both, like Sawyer or Cameryn. Emery, Meyer, and Sawyer; Emery, Meyer, and Cameryn.) Another option would be to gamble and save Meyer for a possible boy next time, but I think that could make things even more complicated by giving the potential excluded feeling to the classically-feeling-excluded middle child.
Well. It's a tricky issue. I'm not sure what I'd do. Let's have a poll over to the right to see what everyone else would do. [Poll closed; see results below.]
To find new candidates, I think I'd look in the Last Names First section of The Baby Name Wizard:
Owen could be a little tricky as a middle name: BOW, COW, DOW, HOW, LOW, MOW, NOW, POW, ROW, SOW, TOW, VOW, WOW, YOW, ZOW. But those are pretty innocuous, and may even be fun. Jacob and Lee both work without spelling anything, though L could be cute with a monogram where the surname initial goes in the center: with a name like Oliver Lee Wilson, you could have the monogram OWL---a little secret cuteness, maybe a cute family nickname, and a fun excuse for buying owl things.