I know you've tackled this one before, but I'm at complete loss. Early on we decided we liked the name Alexander (our first baby). His middle name will be Thomas after my husband's late father. But we made the mistake of telling people about it. It didn't help that the husband wanted to call him Alex and I wanted to call him Xander. Not only that, but the mother-in-law's boyfriend (whom I hate, deeply) decided it was fun to call the baby Alex. But I digress. We decided the name was dead and after much research came up with Zachary. Which is OK I guess. My husband still feels that Alexander is the best name. That it just "feels right," but still refuses to call him Xander (which is too popular to be unique anymore anyway).
I guess I'm just frustrated that a perfectly good name has been destroyed for me and we can't seem to find any other names that we both like. The only girl's name we ever agreed on was Amelia.
Any advice you could give me on coming up with a similar but more awesome name would be much appreciated!
Was the name destroyed because of your mother-in-law's boyfriend liked the same nickname your husband liked? Or was it something about the reaction people had to the name when you told them? Or was it because you and your husband can't agree on a nickname? I can't tell what it was that destroyed an otherwise perfect name.
For similar names, I'd start by looking for other longish boy names with good nicknames:
But if the problem with Alexander was that you and your husband couldn't agree on a nickname, you may have the same problem here: you may want Nico or Cole while he would prefer Nick, for example.
In which case maybe it would work well to find a name that doesn't have an automatic nickname. And I think I might look for something outside the Top 10: I normally am a fan of common names, but with the surname Johnson I might look for something more unusual.
(I just know there are going to be some of these that are the names of famous Johnsons already. So many Johnsons!)
Name update! K. writes (in the comment section):
K...the original question was from me. I apologize for muddying the issue. Alexander was mostly out because of the nickname battle, the boyfriend was just the cherry on top. We ended up using Thomas for the first name. I know, it's not very unique, but it really just fit him when he got here. And in this day and age there is something to be said for the anonymity that comes from having a common name. :Dand
Thanks for all your replies and suggestions.
K again, sorry, I forgot to mention that the middle name was changed to Grant. The hubby and I call him Thomas and Tommy, and bug and little one.