Hi Swistle! I've been reading your name blog ever since I found out I was pregnant with #2. Our baby girl is due in October and we've narrowed it down to 2 first names we like. So far so good, right? We're ahead of the game.
However, the name we love is very similar to our first daughter's name and I'm wondering if it's *too* similar, or too close to rhyming.
Our last name rhymes with Wreath and starts with a C sound. Our daughter's name is Tr!ll!@n M!r@ (replace ! with i and @ with a, of course).
The name we love for the new baby is Mer!d!@n. We don't have a middle name yet, but it'll be something Indian, to honor my side of the family. I'm not worried about finding a suitable name that "matches" with the first name - that part is easier for us.
The name we like, but not as much is Winter. Hubby and I don't agree on many names, so the fact that we both like this one is already a big deal. But it doesn't have the WOW factor that the other one did for us.
My question is whether Mer!d!@n is just too similar to Tr!ll!@n? They're both 8 letters and have the same ending. But I like that they "go together" without being exactly rhyming, or the same first letter, etc. I'd love to know what the readers think?
We're still open to other choices but want a name where we're both thinking "WOW, that's IT!" which is what we did with our first daughter's name, and also feel about Mer!d!@n.
Our preferences are:
1. No question about pronunciation when you see it written
2. Nothing ending in a C, K, or X sound
3. Not on the SSN Top 1000 list, or very, very low :)
Thanks for your help!
My first reaction was that they were too close, and that the rhythm of the two names together made the problem even more noticeable: it called to mind the "Finnegan (begin again)" part of the song Michael Finnegan.
But there are tons of sibling-name sets out there that I would put in a similar category on first hearing them (too close! too far! rhyming! a sibling noticeably different from the others! oh no, a STYLE CLASH!)---and yet, with the exception of, at most, a fresh explanation each time the sibling names come up to a new audience ("Yes, Faith, Hope, and Kayla---I guess my parents didn't want to use Charity"), it doesn't seem like the kind of issue that will be a terrible ordeal for anyone.
Not only does it not have to be a deal-breaker, many parents do it ON PURPOSE---and many other people love it when they encounter it. While many parents with a daughter named Lily are saying, "Well, pooh: now that rules out Rose and Ivy and Violet," many others are saying "I want to continue the floral/botanical theme---how about Rose or Ivy or Violet?" While some people will be startled at hearing siblings named Chloe and Zoe, others will be saying, "That is SO CUTE, I LOVE it!"
After looking at these examples for awhile (as well as at the twin-name section of the Social Security site: so many Jada/Jaden pairings!), and then looking back at Tr!ll!@n and Mer!d!@n, I feel like they aren't too close at all. Yes, they share ending sounds, and saying them together may draw people's attention to that. But that doesn't seem like such a bad thing. It seems like a tiny thing compared with finding a name that is exactly what you want.
Name update! A. writes:
Our October baby was born on Monday and is healthy, happy, and awesome. (Newborns are so much less nervewracking the second time!)
Her name is Meridi@n Rayn@. Thanks so much to you and your commenters for all the great input!