I have just come across your blog and I am hoping you will be able to help us name our son, who is due on Feb. 22, 2013.and
We will pay tribute to a family member by using the middle name Frank. Our last name is pronounced Loochka and we have a daughter named Sadie Lenore. (Lenore is a family name also).
We have found my name, Cindy, to be very close to Sadie, which we did not think of before, but now many people confuse us!
So, for that reason, we are shying away from names with the soft c or s sound. We are also hesitant to use "y" or "ie" ending.
We had a stillborn son named Isaac James, and this baby has managed through several pregnancy complications, so I do like to consider very strong sounding names.
We tend to avoid first names with the letter L, as it usually doesn't sound right with our last name, as does an "a" ending, or a "oo" sound like Drew.
I prefer short names, and even better, names that can not be shortened, or to use an already shortened name, like Theo. We love the name Theo, but sadly can not use it.
I also like the name Eli, but my husband will not go for it due to past experience with an Eli.
I like the names Ben, Sam, Alex, but they are too popular. I don't want a totally unique name, but something that is not on the top 20 lists would be nice.
I like names with traditional spellings, so that my son will not always have to correct the spelling of his name.
I also love it when letters are not repeated, but I feel that now I am asking for a miracle, so I will be flexible on this point.
For example, before we named our stillborn son, we were in love with the name Bennett, but now I don't like the name as much because of the duplicates of e, n, and t. Also, Ben is very popular.
Thank you for any consideration you can give to this specific task.
Well, here we are with less than a month to go and still feeling a little lost in naming this little guy.
My goal was to end up with a list of three names to choose from. We aren't fairing very well.
The only two possibilities are Theo and Wesley. We brought Theo back on the list even though we thought we couldn't use it.
We are feeling as though it may not be right, and I don't know that I like the sound of Theo Frank.
I also wonder if Theo is an awkward name, with some people not hearing the "th" sound, or some unable to pronounce it properly or clearly.
Wesley is my husband's top pick at the moment, but we don't love the nickname Wes and wonder if in some ways Jeff and Wes are too similar in the way that Cindy and Sadie are.
I like Davis, with the nickname Davey, but my husband does not like Davis. Neither of us like Dave or David.
My husband is pretty definite on the middle name Frank to honor his grandfather, however, sometimes I think it is funny that this boy will have his great-grandfather's full name with Frank and the last name. I hear the middle name Frank and last name together and only think of this man.
Hoping for some fresh ideas from you and your readers!
I think this is one of the troubles with choosing both the surname and the honor middle name from one side of the family: it DOES seem a little odd to have someone else's name with another name tacked on the front! In my experience, though, the oddness wears off.
But since the honor name is also giving you troubles in other ways, perhaps it would be better to choose the first name first, and then find an honor name from your side of the family that goes well with it. If your husband is adamant about choosing the middle name, I suggest that you have slightly more say on the first name, to make things feel more balanced.
Was his grandfather's full name Frank, or was Frank short for Franklin? Franklin might be easier to work with, with some first names.
I would have said there'd be no trouble with people mispronouncing Theo, but that was before we talked about the pronunciation of Blythe! Perhaps some parents of Theos and Theodores can let us know how it's going.
Would you want to consider using Frank/Franklin as the first name? I realize that makes the "it sounds just like his great-grandfather" problem even worse---but I think Franklin is a great name, and also that the association would wear off even more quickly.
If you like Eli, I suggest Ian. Ian Frank Loochka.
Or Eliot. Eliot Frank Loochka.
If you don't like the nickname Wes, that does make Wesley seem a bit iffy. I think you could successfully get most people to use his full name---but I generally advise against a name if the parents dislike the nickname(s): it's so hard to know whether the child himself will want to use the nickname, and then you'd be stuck.
When I was talking in a group of parents at kindergarten pick-up about baby names, two of the women mentioned that they'd had TERRIBLE times choosing names with their husbands---agreed on NOTHING, with seemingly NO names they both liked. The two names finally settled on were Jared and Derek, and so now I have those filed in my mind as names that resolve impossible situations. Jared Loochka, Derek Loochka.
Or Dean. Dean Loochka; Sadie and Dean.
It has a double letter, but Everett seems a little like Theodore and Bennett to me, and it's my favorite so far with Sadie. Everett Loochka; Sadie and Everett.
Or Evan. Evan Loochka; Sadie and Evan. Maybe this one sounds too much like Jeff.
Or Nathan. Nathan Frank Loochka; Sadie and Nathan.
Name update! Cindy writes:
I would like to thank you and your readers for all of the great name suggestions, and particularly for the encouragement for the name Theo.
We did in fact name our little guy, Theo Frank, and we are very pleased with the name. He was born on Friday, February 15th, 2013, weighing 4 lbs 12 oz.
He truly is our "divine gift" or "gift from god" as the meaning for Theo also made it a wonderful choice.
Here is a picture of our beautiful Sadie and handsome Theo.
Cindy and Family