We are expecing our second and final baby - a girl in March and are in need of help with finding a middle name. A little background, my name is Anna Mary (named after my paternal granmother), my husband's name is Eric Joseph and our son's name is Graham Joesph. Our last name sounds like Merlot.
We aren't sold on the baby's first name, but we are pretty sure it will either be Brynn, Hollis, or Hadley. Here lies the problem... since my son's middle name honors my husband and his father, I really want to incorporate my father's name somehow. His name you ask? Vyto Anthony! We have tried Vita and don't prefer it. We also thought of Vianna (honoring my father, his mother and myself at the same time). We are thinking a name simply starting with "V" will do the trick, but I would like to find one with a little more meaning if possible. Other family names that can be incorporated with the "V" would be Brennan (or any similar variation) or Lee. Can you help with any other suggestions? Is there another total direction to go in that we haven't thought of? We just can't seem to find the right fit.
My first suggestion is to use the female form of Anthony: Antonia. I think it's a very pretty name. The main issue is whether your father will feel honored by that. My middle name is Nicole, which gives me a good parallel: I'm imagining if I had a grandson with the middle name Nicholas "after me," would I feel like it was after me? A little bit, but not a lot. Even less so if a grandchild's name shared only the first initial of my first name: I would not want to seem ungrateful for the intended honor, but the middle name Keegan (my first name is Kristen) doesn't seem like it would feel connected to my name at all. You can try this exercise yourself, too, since these feelings would vary considerably from person to person and from family to family: how honored would you feel by a grandson given the middle name Mario? a grandson given the middle name Alexander?
I prefer my second suggestion: since your son's name honors two male family members from your husband's side, could your daughter's name honor a female family member or two from your side? For example, you and your grandmother? Brynn Mary Merlot, or Hollis Mary Merlot, or Hadley Mary Merlot. (I also like Hollis Anna and Hadley Anna, but didn't want the initials to spell HAM.) This would partially honor your dad as well, since the name comes from his mother.
But if you are set on using your father's name, and you think he'd feel honored by the use of his initial, then I suggest the name Violet. It shares several letters and sounds with Vyto.