I have been a long time reader even before I was expecting. I am due in six weeks (mid Feb) with our first baby which is a girl. Our last name is Price and we live on the East Coast. We hope to have another child after this one. Naming a child has given me a lot of anxiety, so I didn't really start thinking about a name until 20 weeks, and I knew the gender for sure. I do like the name Lucas for a boy. For boys names I don't mind more common names and prefer something masculine. For girls I would prefer if the name not be in the top 10 at least. I lean toward more feminine names and don't usually like unisex names. I also don't prefer when people add in a "Y" to make the name look unique or different ie. Jordyn or Emersyn. I personally get confused with a name like Carys. For a long time I could never figure out how to say it. We have had very few contenders for our girl. I would like a name on Monday and then hate it by Sunday. Elizabeth has come up a number of times for us, but I am not sold on it.
I have listened to what you have said many times that "there will be no perfect name." It is interesting to me the name we seem to be landing on based on everything I just said in the above paragraph. I like the name Bryn. However with our last name, I didn't like the a one syllable first and last name. So someone suggested Brynley. The more and more I think about it, it has really grown on me. I like that we could call her Bryn and Brynley. I would like her to have the option to go by Bryn when she is older as well.
Here is the problem. I can't decide between the spelling Brynley or Brinley. Brynley just looks so confusing to me with the "y." Will people constantly be confused how to pronounce it? As a teacher for 10 years I think about this a lot. I liked that my name growing up was easy to say and spell, but with all the crazy names nowadays is everyone having to tell people how to do this? I don't want people to look at her name and think to say it BRIAN (like the boy)-Lee. That would be annoying to me as a kid. I do like the shortened form Bryn and it doesn't seem hard to figure out. With Brynley the "Y" just seems like we are trying to be different like Jordyn or Emersyn. In the end I just don't like how it looks, seems like there are two many "y's" or something.
Brinley seems to make all these issues go, but it just looks SO masculine to me. I don't like looking at it. I don't like looking at Brin either.
I don't like Brynleigh or Brynlee.
Should we go back to the drawing board even if I really like how a name sounds, but don't like how it looks? Could you give me some advice that might ease my mind with this name and a spelling. Am I crazy and over thinking this?
If you're asking my own personal opinion, I greatly prefer the spelling Brinley. It doesn't look masculine to me, and I get the same "too many Y's" and "maybe trying to be different" reactions you find you get with Brynley. Also, even though I know Brynley is pronounced the same as Brinley, my mind keeps wanting to say Bry- to rhyme with try and cry.
But if you hate the way Brinley/Brin looks, that's a significant issue---one that I'd say trumps the issues with the Brynley spelling.
It may be that these issues will mean the name isn't the right choice. I'm still unhappy that Paul and I had to scratch the name Elliot off our list because neither of us would agree to the other one's preferred spelling (he preferred Eliot). But it really did come down to that: the name didn't work for us because of the way it looked.
Or, maybe it means going back to Bryn. I think Bryn Price is a 1-1 combination that works, like Brad Pitt works, and it lets you use the spelling you prefer without running into the issues that come up when you add -ley. You could choose a middle name that would work nicely for calling her both when you wanted something longer, like Bryn Louise or Bryn Marie.
Or we could find some similar names. Finley, for example, or Quinn or Wynne, or Brenna. Hey, maybe Brynna? Brynna Price gives you a 2-1 pattern instead of 1-1, and you could still use Bryn. My mind does briefly do that rhymes-with-try thing, but I don't think it would KEEP doing that. And as with Brynley, I DO know how it's pronounced: I wouldn't actually think it might be like brine-ah, it would only be a momentary brain flicker when I looked at it.
Or there's Braelyn? Or I'm trying to remember the little girl my mom knows who has such a cute name along similar lines. I'll email her and add it in here later. It might actually BE Brinley or Braelyn. (Edited to add: It's Braelyn.)
Or Kinley is cute, or Kinsley.
Or Briony, pronounced either BREE-ah-nee or BRY-ah-nee.
Or Corinne is similar in sound to Bryn, but with two syllables. Corinne Price.
Or Karenna. Karenna Price.
Or Katherine would be so pretty. Katherine Price.
Or Marin? I'm thinking of it pronounced like MARE-rin, rather than like Marin County. Marin Price.
Mirren is similar and I love Helen Mirren. Mirren Price.
Or Linnea, with nicknames Linn and Linnie.
Elizabeth also seems great to me. Elizabeth Price is such a good name. If it's not quite right, maybe you'd like Eliza or Elsa or Eloise or Ellery. Or you could name her Elizabeth Brynn Price and still call her Brynn sometimes.
But I think Brynna is my favorite option: an extended version of Bryn, which is what you wanted from Brynley, but without the same issues.
Let's also have a poll over to the right to see how we as a group are divided on the spelling Brinley vs. Brynley. [Poll closed; see results below.]