My due date is April 7th & I have a major issue with my husband wanting a Jr. This is the 1st time I ever found out what we were having before they were born. We are having a boy.
I have 2 children Mason Lee & Merissa Julia. My husband wants Jeffrey Jason Cross Jr. or Jeffrey Ralph Cross Jr. or an "M" name. I will never agree to either one of the Jeffrey's. We already have a son, I don't like the idea of Jr.'s & most importantly I don't like the name Jeffrey at all! He is the Jeffrey Jason & his Dad is Jeffrey Ralph. Ralph is his grandfathers name. If you could pick any boy "M" name, what would you choose? I want to knock his socks of with an "M" name! I loved when you chose Declan. I did bring that name up, but of course my husband shot that down because it wasn't Jeffrey or an "M". If it is any help me kids picked Toby & they actually agreed on it??!! They don't agree on anything. Of course my husband turned that down as well.
Thank you for your time
If you don't like the idea of a junior and you don't like the name Jeffrey, then that name is off the table. This does not mean that now you need to scramble to find something your husband likes better than Jeffrey. Instead it means that you and your husband now both need to work to find the name the two of you like best from the remaining candidates. Perhaps if it's very important to your husband, you might agree to use Jeffrey, Jason, or Ralph as a middle name.
(As an aside, a junior is given the same entire name as his father. So if you were going to have a junior, the child's name would be Jeffrey Jason Cross Jr. If your husband wanted instead to name his son after his father, the child's name could be Jeffrey Ralph Cross II.)
Do you agree to using an M name? If you don't, that too is off the table (or rather, is still on the table as an issue the two of you would need to decide on before you can go on to choose the name). I feel as if we've had a run recently on "one parent absolutely insisting on something the other parent doesn't want," and it's making me cranky. The decision is up to both parents, and both parents are responsible for finding the agreed-upon name. One parent may willingly choose to go along with the other parent's preference---but it isn't right or fair for one parent to make a declaration and insist the other parent submit to that declaration. If you are willing to use an M name, then we can find a good M name. If you would prefer to break the M streak, then that is fine too, and you and your husband would then both turn to the task of finding the name the two of you liked best from the entire pool of non-Jeffrey, non-M names.
If you like Declan, I suggest Malcolm. Malcolm Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Malcolm.
One of my own favorite M names is Milo. Milo Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Milo. Or Miles would be nice.
Another of my favorites is Miller. Miller Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Miller.
Miller reminds me of Meyer. Meyer Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Meyer.
Maxwell seems like a good brother name for Mason. Maxwell Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Maxwell.
The name Matthew is an enduring favorite. Matthew Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Matthew. Matthias would make it a little more unusual.
Or there's Merit/Merritt. Merritt Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Merritt.
But if you look through all the M names in the book and you don't find any you like, there are other ways to coordinate the sibling set. Mason and Merissa share not only an M but also an A and an S, so a name like Samuel would work very nicely. Samuel Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Samuel.
I've thought the names Mason and Sawyer would go together well: both surname names, and both tradesman names. Sawyer Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Sawyer.
Or something like Jacob: it repeats the number of letters and the vowel sounds of Mason, and J and M are close together in the alphabet. Jacob Cross; Mason, Merissa, and Jacob. (Jake Cross could sound like Jay Cross or Jake Ross, but neither is a negative/embarrassing mistake.)